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In the lifelong journey of living, we must all face into life's provocations. Provocations are constant, and there isn’t anyone who is spared. For most people, provocations feel like a problem. For my clients and I, they are an invitation for integration.
Provocations are the gateway to our potential.
When you know who you are and what matters to you, you trust the provocations to be the platform for your evolution. But most people live their lives from the confines of the familiar role. So instead of surrendering to the invitation, they seek to manage and shut down the sensations that arise in their body through the provocations.
Note: the provocations continue to exist. The questions isn't if they will or won't, but how will you choose to engage them? Will you seek to manage or evolve? Will you seek to escape or embrace? Will you seek an away-from pain strategy or a move-toward pleasure?
In order to shift how you hold the meaning of the inevitable provocations, you must be willing to shift the context that creates your reality.
The conversations we seed become the contagion for possibility. The more we engage in conversations from the truth of the moment, the more freedom we create in our experience of living. The more enlivened our lives begin to feel. The more connected we feel to the people we care about.
However, there is a catch: 1. You have to be willing to go first. 2. You have to know what "truth of the moment" actually means.
There are a lot of misconceptions about this, something we explore deeply in Decloaking and Living Authentically. There is so much that goes on during a conversation. There is so much that is said, but more than that, so much that is presupposed. So much that is left unsaid. All of it becomes the context from which you choose. The more you are aligned with your inner cues, the more you know how to hear the truth.
The familiar way to deal with discomfort is through holding your tongue and allowing resentment to build inside your body. You wish for things to be different, when they’re not. You try to make yourself understand why they’re not different so you can do what it takes to change them, but it’s like talking to a brick wall.
In other words: no matter how much you twist yourself into a pretzel to try to make it make sense, it won’t. Because the context does not align. This is not rocket science, but it is frequency and coherence science.
Do you have the conversation you want or the ones you think you're allowed to have?
Do you wait for conditions to "be right" before you talk or you take ownership of the moment and engage?
Do you wait for them to change or do you create the life you want?
If you want a different outcome in life, you must be willing to change the conversations in your head about yourself. Only then do you become more adept at having the conversations that seed potential out loud.
If you continue to hold back and on while expecting that they somehow magically change, you may find yourself steeped in disappointment, resentment, uncertain how to engage, and profoundly disconnected from your body. Without an ability to know where we focus our attention, we feel trapped in the limitations of that which is left unexamined. Because having the same conversations from a different angle will give us the same results.
If you choose to speak up and speak out in alignment with your truth, you must know how to do that without losing yourself. You must know how to focus on the truth of your experience about you. You must know how to speak with respect, integrity and generosity of Spirit. You must trust yourSelf.
By doing so, you become at cause for the quality of your life. This requires you take radical responsibility for the quality of your life.
What becomes possible in a state of surrender is anything.
The thing we resist, persists. That’s just math. So trusting aligning with the truth is imperative. The only way to do so is to stay open and receptive to what is. Embracing it by staying Present to the truth of what IS (not trying to manipulate it to be what we wish it were) so we can make choices in alignment with reality. This is how we create coherence, not noise.
How much of your life are currently fighting simply because you don’t want to accept what is?
How much of yourself are you currently twisting into a pretzel to try and avoid what you know is true?
How much life are you pouring into that which is already dead (yet you keep dragging it around)?
Free yourself by honouring the truth
When we feel powerless, we become an active participant in another’s game. No matter how much we don’t want to be or try not to be, we are. Because we hold our breath. Because we don’t want to see. Because we fear the consequences. Yet holding on will give us more of the same while letting go into the truth will free us. But, how?
Trust the truth. Let it move in your body. Create the Space you need to allow it to be in flow. Be mindful about breathing intentionally. You might choose to write everything down unfiltered, or send an email to yourself. You might pause and let the truth linger. If you know Quantum TLC™, you might choose the faster path.
The point is: Be intentional about shifting your internal state before you seek to shift your external reality. When you accept the truth and let go of a preconceived outcome, what WAS no longer IS and therefore has no power. How cool is that?!
Surrender to the wave, not the pain
Be intentional about the process of surrendering. Not to the pain, but to the wave. To the truth. To the authentic expression of what IS. To wanting it to be different when it isn't. To the truth of what the consequences of owning it all will be. To giving up caring more for another than they do for themselves. To become deeply caring yet indifferent to their triggering life choices.
Unapologetically declare your boundaries
Boundaries are essential to the quality of our lives. Without boundaries, we become chess pieces in another's game, seething, resenting ourselves, our rage fueling the very game we feel trapped in.
Boundaries (a nominalization) are fascinating inventions. They are the line in the sand… the edge of a potential… the emergence of a longing, expressed. They can be fixed or fluid; habituated or the constant press for an emergence. They are not ‘a thing’ – they are ‘us’ in evidence, as we move through an existing ‘reality’ and choose to influence rather than be subsumed.
Boundaries: they are never easy and always essential to the living of a Life of our own creation.
Like money – easy to manage when we have lots of it… not-so-much when we see scarcity on the horizon – boundaries pose no challenge until the boundaries, themselves, are challenged. In that nanosecond, we have to choose: “Do I show up as who I now know mySelf to be… or do I retreat into and surrender to the expectations of me with and from others?
It can be tricky to know if you are a participant in a mind game. There are many tactics and belief systems that keep us trapped within the context of the mind game: mainly, that we don’t want to see it for what it is because it has consequences.
However, if you’re interested to find out if you and a loved one are in a dance of mind control, I made a short list of questions you can explore for yourself (make a copy of it and tick the 'yes' boxes).
Playing a supporting role in someone else's dance is no fun. When another directs and we react, nothing changes. But when we respond intentionally, the quality of our life transforms. It’s not easy, because it demands we take ownership of our internal state AND the role we played in creating the reality we find ourselves in. I’d say that’s how we reclaim our power, wouldn’t you?
This is a matter of choice, aligning with coherence in the quantum field.
When you choose from your emergence and potential, not your history and limitation, you intentionally transform your reality through alignment.
In that, you free yourself from living in resistance.
One place to start the conversation is in the Reclaiming Wholeness: Owning the conversations we avoid retreat starting in less than two weeks. This is where we will explore what it takes to create conversations as an expression of the soul and a conduit for potential, and integrate what gets in the way. If you want to discover how, book a 30-minute Emergence Conversation with me and let's see if this is the right place for you.
I'm Stela Murrizi and everything I create is 100% human.
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